Being happy is a choice. You may not have chosen it in the past, but it's an option for you every day of your life. You don't have to be miserable. You don't have to be stuck in a job with a boss that you hate. Misery and being broke are not things that are required of you.
Admitting that you have room for improvement requires a bit of self-awareness and personal persistence that's hard to conjure up unless you are radically focused on getting to where you want to be. Unless every ounce of your being is pointed in the direction of progress.
There are people around you who love you and want the best for you. But they're not willing to fight for your dreams like you are. Like you need to. They are there to support and love you. To encourage you. To help you dream. The real work has to be done by you.
When was the last time you had an honest conversation about your results, your effort, and your attitude? It's easy to look around and blame all of your problems on other people and their bad behavior. To blame bad luck. To pretend like none of the reasons why you are where you are right now have nothing to do with you.
Those who are habitually cruel use the label candor to justify their jerkish behavior. On the other hand, those who struggle with conflict and seek to avoid it at all costs excuse away their lack of candor by pretending that they care too much. In truth, candor is balanced. It's already the "middle of the line" option. Not unnecessarily cruel. Not overly kind. Just true words delivered in a way so that others can use it to be their best self.
Knowing that you're likely to fail and still heading into the battle with the belief that no matter what happens you're going to get back up and try again. Time after time after time -- until you get to where you want to be. What will you do?
Do you really want what you say you want? Or is what you say you want the thing that you think will get you closer to what you really want? Are you fighting for what you want? Or are you just doing things that will make you money or make you happy so that eventually you'll have the time and resources to do what you really want?
No matter how much you grown or gained, there's room for you to play the game at a higher level. Remember that. You don't need to be a workaholic to push yourself to play the game at a higher level. This isn't about obsession or managing the details.
Today is the time to take that first step towards the future you've been telling everybody else you want to get to. The anecdote to your problems isn't the hope that they magically fix themselves. It is to take action. To be bold. To choose wisely.
Here's the thing, everyone else can see your ridiculousness. Sometimes they even feel sorry for you. They know you're not in your right mind. But they can't help you. Not in the state you're in right now. You've been drinking your own punch for too long and it's caused you to lose track of all those things you wants valued.
You don't need to be "a company" to understand the importance of delivering surprise and delight. In fact, it's more likely than not that you'll never be in charge of an enterprise. You won't get the chance to dictate across the entire corporation a focus of delivering surprise and delight. But you can still make a difference just being you.
You don't need to do any superhuman sort of activity or attempt some intellectually challenging feat of brilliance. It's about small and focused differentiation -- smiles and attention, not discounts, coupon codes, or over the top promises. There's no excuse for not delivering surprise and delight.
When you trust. When you have faith. And then you let those emotions carry you along your day. Despite the failure that comes. Despite the fear you feel. Despite the strange looks and raised eyebrows you get from those around you. Just believe. Let it infect you. And drive you. Lead you.
You can't bring delight to others unless the fountain of delight within your soul is bubbling over already. You can't bring surprise and excitement to those you engage unless within you is spewing a volcano of those same raw emotions.
If you don't care, it's not worth it for you to go the extra mile. You're not going to care enough to double-check and over prepare. Which is why I come back to where I started this discussion. Maybe you're in the wrong line of work right now. Maybe you need to burn the ships and go pursue your destiny.
When was the last time you had to interact with your cable company, and came away feeling like it was easy to achieve success? I've been told before that I need to take my phone number off my website and hide my email address so that people won't be able to contact me. Think about that for yourself.
And then over delivering. Delivering so much value it no longer makes sense. We call that surprise and delight -- delivering surprise and delight. It's not a business concept that you learn much about when you are getting an advanced degree in economics or a subject matter you'll hear in business school. Most discussions about getting rich or making money are all about the least you can do to make the greatest return on investment.
Jeremy makes some great points about business not being about constant growth, but a series of ups and downs. Be careful not to let laziness strike and every time you fall, you will get back up a stronger person if you keep at it.
She also talks about what to do when we are struggling to find our voices and we feel as though we are not being heard. She also discusses giving ourselves permission to speak up in a place where we feel we are not qualified to be.
An experience that is so memorable you feel like it should last forever. You know you're spending money with someone -- and maybe more than you anticipated at first -- but you feel good about it. You feel like you want more of it. It's so new and fresh and exciting -- so invigorating -- that you're left with a warm place in your soul that wasn't there before.
David hopes that others seeking business expertise will be inspired his own journey. Putting knowledge gained into action produces experience and boosting creativity through reading are two more topics covered in this amazing interview on today's episode of 'Bring Your Own Awesome.'
What did Austin do when he entered a saturated market and people told him he should quit? He kept going. He strongly believes that success is a journey and not a finish line and he will reach that finish line with determination.
Today Dan and Broc interview Bryan Vashus in a powerful discussion about goals, leadership, long-term success, and doing the hard things that get you closer to where you want to be. They talk about fixed mindset versus growth mindset and how being exposed to new ideas is such an important factor of that.
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