It Doesn't Have To Be True For You To Be Right.
Whether it's true or not means very little. Your beliefs aren't logical.
That's true to you looking at others. That's true when others look at you.
What you think and feel and believe to be true doesn't need to be true for others in order for it to be true for you.
And while that might seem like careful wording to excuse away dishonesty, it reveals a larger principle. It is a telling representation about how powerful your beliefs really are.
If you think about something long enough, it consumes you.
That's true both figuratively, and most often, quite literally.
In other words, if you are consumed by a desire to make money at all costs, your perspective on everything around you, on a daily basis, is shaded by that internal belief you have.
You don't see what everyone else sees. You see what your beliefs shine a spotlight on.
Your beliefs accentuate and perpetuate the stories you tell yourself about a particular situation.
And you have stories for everything.
Stories for why you fail when that happens. Stories about your successes.
Stories about love, commitment, and how you are who you are because of your childhood.
Those stories reinforce your beliefs. Your beliefs create and reinforce your behaviors. Which is how your thoughts become things.
Thoughts about relentlessness turn into long-term success, even when the odds are stacked against you. Thoughts about how life is unfair lead to perpetual discouragement and jealousy -- even when you achieve some bit of success.
It doesn't matter what the actual situation is, your beliefs tell you how to interpret it.
That interpretation is guided by the stories and thoughts you've been feeding yourself.
This entire discussion is important for several reasons.
When you trying to help someone else improve their performance, it's absolutely necessary to know what they believe.
Just because you see success a certain way doesn't mean that's how they're going to see it.
Long after you've implemented your seven-step strategy or help them organize their business into a series of seemingly manageable processes, their beliefs are going to drive them down. Destroying any progress you might have help them achieve temporarily.
Success is possible. Progress is possible. New and better results are possible. But only if you understand how to help that person adjust the stories they tell themselves and the beliefs they use to make judgments about what is going on around them.
When you're trying to change yourself, it's absolutely critical that you are wildly aware of your own beliefs.
How you make decisions. What you default to under times of stress.
How you think about money, relationships, work, and other people's opinions about you.
We rarely spend enough time evaluating our beliefs. In fact, most people never spend time at all to know what they believe or to consider how that belief is holding them back from getting to where they want to be.
Therein lies your path to success.
The mechanics and magic that follow can always be improved. But without belief in yourself and in your destination, you'll end up exactly where you might be right now -- stuck, frustrated, and not exactly sure how to change things.
Start by looking at what you believe. It doesn't have to be true to others or logical to anyone else. Your belief is your destiny. Your calling card. What you want most from life and the rules you're committed to living by.
What you believe, you will achieve.