To Change, Give It The Respect It Deserves.
The problem with changing is that it's both new and uncomfortable. Even if you are excited about the possible outcomes, the first few times you try changing, you end up with horrible results. Almost always.
The pattern looks a little like this:
You know you need to change, so you think about changing. Then you convince yourself to start changing. But changing is awkward and uncomfortable and feels horrible -- even with great results, forcing you to decide whether or not to continue changing.
That's the pattern -- whether you're in business trying to close deals or in a relationship where your partner tells you things have to change or they're out.
Changing is difficult.
That's not an excuse. But it should impress upon you the importance of treating it with the seriousness that it deserves.
Changing isn't easy. And it's not automatic. It requires conscious work on your behalf.
Perhaps the biggest reason why business leaders find it so difficult to lead change is that they don't take the act of changing seriously enough.
They just add it to their list of things to do -- like everything else. But changing isn't like everything else. It's more emotionally impactful. It requires more brain power. More energy. More courage.
It's new and uncomfortable.
And, therefore, it requires more of your brain power to navigate.
If you're a leader, covered up with six to seven hours of meetings and conference calls each day, you aren't emotionally prepared to get results.
You can't be an agent of excellence when you're busy doing mediocre things.
Which is why any discussion around change quickly becomes a discussion about priorities and productivity.
Sometimes less is more.
To change in a meaningful way, you have to do more of the uncomfortable things that you're not used to doing and less of the productive things that you can check off your list and feel good about each day.
For a while, it looks like you're doing less. That you're falling behind.
But you know the difference in intensity and purpose. You're giving change the respect that it deserves.
It's not easy being awesome. But it's always worth it.