How To Know Exactly Why You're Stuck.
The excuses you allow yourself to make are the reasons you are failing. If you're not sure why you're stuck, check your excuses.
The truth is that the excuses you allow yourself to tolerate dictate your level of success.
Your attitude determines your altitude.
On a personal level, it's automatic to be dismissive of ideas that haven't worked for you in the past or thinking that might be new and awkward for you.
It's not until you're truly motivated to change that you'll begin to take the steps necessary to move from where you are to get closer to where you want to be.
That's exactly how it worked for me.
I am in awe of early morning people. But I've never truly been one of you. I'm working on it as a matter of sheer human will, but it's not natural or easy. I tend to be the sort of person who just gets up and grinds. Often working late into the early hours of the next day. I go and go until everything gets done. Or close.
Here is my problem. Every study I've ever read about productivity seems to indicate that early morning risers get more done than everyone else. I was explaining to a mentor and friend of mine that I just wasn't a morning person.
To which he replied to me, "NO. You're just not a motivated person."
My immediate reaction was to throw back my shoulders and deliver a: "Do you know who you're talking to? I'm Dan Waldschmidt. I run 100-mile races. How dare you call me not motivated."
But it only took me a couple of seconds to realize that he was right. Motivation isn't about history. It's about destiny. Your future. Not what you've done, but where you are going.
Winners don't make excuses for their behavior.
They are aware and alert for a problem. They fix it. They move on.
If your first response to feedback is an excuse, a reason, or a perfectly good explanation, you're not acting like a winner.
Think about that the next time you're put into a situation where someone else is judging your performance and telling you to do better.
Think about that the next time you're left wondering why everyone else around you is succeeding and you're left feeling stuck in place.
The excuses you make hold you back from realizing your full potential. Those reasons and explanations are why you're feeling stuck.
When the only thing that matters is progress, you listen to anyone who can help you.
You fall in love with your enemies because they're the only ones brave enough to tell you your true flaws.
You dig deep into the scathing criticism delivered by your skeptics. Inside their disrespect and unfair critique is the answer to your malaise and lack of performance.
If you're not all in, you are not in the game at all.
Remember that. No excuses. No perfectly good explanations. Achieving your destiny isn't a matter of luck or perfect timing. It's you deciding you're willing to change anything as long as it gets you closer to where you want to be.
It's you deciding your ego isn't as important as the end goal. That's when you get unstuck.
That's when you feel empowered to change the world.