A Failure To Experience Pain.

You either train tough or learn to quit when trouble arrives. Imagine how differently you would live your life if you woke up every morning training to win an Olympic event. You would be careful about what you eat and how much sleep you get each night.

You would have a daily training regimen, a coach that you rely on, and competitors that you compare yourself against.

You wouldn't just go through the motions.

You would examine the details of your event. Practice under pressure. Simulate the actual event occurring.

In fact, you might make things harder on yourself in training by wearing a weight vest or by increasing the amount of exercise you do.

Why? By making it tougher on yourself in training, you're building the special skills to be extraordinary when the actual competition begins.

Nothing is left to chance. Nothing is accidental.

Every moment of every day is planned and coordinated and analyzed for efficiency and effectiveness.

But that's not how you live your personal life or your business life.

It should be. But it's probably not.

Whole days and weeks go by without you questioning if what you're doing is the right thing.

Instead of getting a coach to help you do better, you prioritize how you look to others.

You don't simulate hardship. You make excuses to avoid it.

Almost at any cost.

Instead of developing skills like empathy, collaboration, conversation, and endurance -- you're focused on trying to tip the odds in your favor.

You're worried about working smart and appearing like you have all the answers.

You aren't training tough enough.

You're not serious enough about your life.

You're doing things that should matter in a way that doesn't matter. And when things get tough, you fail.

You're overwhelmed by adversity. You want to rise up and win the day -- but you haven't planned for the moment.

And you're not ready.

Mentally. Physically. Or emotionally.

It's a failure to train. A failure to experience pain.

And unless you change that now, you'll never get to where you want to be.

PainStephen Palacino