What No One Tells You About Deciding What's Right To Do.

Despite what you might automatically accept as true -- most of life isn't black-or-white. The decisions you have to make on a daily basis are mostly shades of grey.

You might think you believe that murder is wrong and that you would never take someone else's life, but you will probably find your opinion changed if you're fighting for your own life or for someone that you care about.

You might think you believe that it's always right to turn the other cheek and pay it forward, but you will probably find your opinion changed when one of your children gets taken advantage of or when someone you trust steals money from you.

These are extreme examples.

They aren't going to happen to you everyday. But even less extreme examples -- from everyday family, community, school and work -- can be confusing and deeply situational.

You're going to do things you never thought possible just because of the situation you find yourself in at the moment.

Some of those actions are going to be extraordinary. You're going to rise above your own abilities to achieve results that you never thought were ever possible for someone like you. On the other hand, you might find that you are willing to get dirty and change your definition of right-and-wrong based on what's been done to you.

Right now you can think of a recent experience where you found yourself questioning what's right -- wondering whether what you've always said you believed in is actually something that you still have strong opinions about.

Most of life is gray. Not black and white.

There are no guarantees, quick results, or fast paths to success.

Character and commitment contribute the most to your long term results.

Which is where a lot of well-meaning experts get it wrong. Most training is black and white.

You're taught to do a process a set way for a set period of time -- and you can anticipate a certain set results. The process works. The pattern works.

And so you buy into the information, jump into the training, hire the success guru to come help you with your brand of wizardry -- and you end up disappointed. Unhappy with your financial results.

Disappointed emotionally with the decision you made.

And frustrated that you can't seem to break past the obstacles in your way.

The honest perspective about success is that you might be closer than you think you are. Having a plan is important. Having a process that you plan on working is important. Repeating a winning, planned process is important.

Just don't ever forget that most of life demands you being flexible. Reading between the lines. Hearing what's not being spoken.

Live in the gray. Strategize for finding success in the gray.

Be wary of anybody selling you quick promises, fast dreams, and cheap ways to be successful.

Figuring out the gray is a lifelong process.

Fear, Leadership, PainStephen Palacino