If You're Not Crying You're Not Trying.

Progress is supposed to hurt. That's why we call them growing pains -- not growing pleasure.

When you stretch yourself, you hurt yourself. But you also build your muscles and develop new strength.

Pain means the possibility of gain.

When was the last time you cried because of the pain? This isn't about you being a wimp or whiner, it's about you putting yourself in situations where you might get hurt.

When was the last time you felt so badly because of what you were going through that you felt yourself crumble on the inside?

If you think that's a ridiculous question and look down on people who get emotional about their future, then maybe you're not trying hard enough.

Maybe you're too comfortable.

Maybe you talk a big talk but don't have the guts to do the hard the work that success demands.

This isn't about calling you out or making you feel like you need to sob every time you get a paper cut.

This is about a larger discussion about how fear and pain make you avoid doing hard things -- how the memory of getting hurt makes you procrastinate the important painful things that lead to your success.

The truth about hard things is that they're hard.

They will feel hard every step of the way.

You'll wonder if you're doing the wrong thing. You'll feel miserable. Beaten down. And wildly uncomfortable.

But if you're not crying, you're not trying. Maybe it's time to bring on the pain.

Fear, PainStephen Palacino