Grow up. Stop Pouting. Care.

The title is really all I wanted to say.

(I feel the need to write the rest of this article so you take the idea seriously)

If what you do with most of your day is "about you" then you will probably not do much of any worth.

It's called the Law of Selfish Intentions.

When the chips are down and you really need some help to take your game to the next level, no one is around to support you.  Call it bad karma.  Bad mojo.  Whatever.

The facts remain that if you live a life that is all about you then you miss out on the beauty of life coming together around you.

That's why I started this the way I did:

Grow Up.

Literally.  Take your skills to the next level.  By mentoring someone else.

Nothing drives you to really know the details than giving away your knowledge to those around you who really need it most.  Those who are desperate to succeed.

When you do this, something begins to happen to you.  You realize that there are others out there that you can help significantly.  And you don't want to mess that up.  You want to provide value.  Not just hot air.

And so you grow up.

You grow your skills, your empathy, your respect, your gratitude, your passion....  You grow you.

It's a transformation.

Stop Pouting.

Right now.  You control what you control and the rest happens.  Stop asking "why" and start asking "what can I learn from this".

This sulking, moody funk that we love to dwell in as the storm rolls in is tremendously self-limiting.  It's one of those qualities about a person that is just distasteful.  And yet, it's us sometimes.

We lose. We pout. We lose some more.

How about a new concept.

Stop pouting and start preparing for the next victory dance.

Let me be frank about something.   For every success that I have had over the years (and just ask me -- I'll tell you all about them) I seem to have had not only an equal number of explosive disasters but a ten to twenty fold return of plain-old vanilla failures.  You know what I'm talking about.  You try something.  It doesn't work.

But pouting doesn't work either.

Trade a mindset of emotional disadvantage for the capacity to grow.  Stop pouting.

Care.

More than you think you need to.  Care about the work you do.  Care about the people you interact with on a daily basis.  Care that you are making the most difference.

If you can't care about it -- don't do it.

Caring is an interesting thing.  It adds bite to your failures.  It makes a simple loss something that you really feel deeply.

But it also adds depth to your successes.

Caring makes what you do significant.

And I have found that most of us need more of it in our lives.  I do.  Maybe you do too.

Do you want to be extraordinary?  Care more.  That mindset will guide you around the obstacles that slow down ordinary people with ordinary passion.

Grow up. Stop Pouting. Care.

Edgy ideas?  Maybe.  Maybe it's just something we already knew to do... that we let go of in the heat of the battle.

Fear, Love, PainStephen Palacino