My 1/3 Life Crisis…


On the 11th, I will be the big 3-0, officially wiping one-third of my chalkline off the blackboard of life. And yes, I am aiming to hit 90 (if I can stay out of the way of random buses...).

What a journey the first 30 years of my life have been... (Don't I sound positive?)

"Make no little plans; they have no magic to stir men's blood and probably themselves will not be realized. Make big plans, aim high in hope and work. Remember that our sons and grandsons are going to do things that would stagger us..." Daniel Burnham, Chicago architect

REFLECTIVE. Not negative! Sometimes I feel like my resume could be the Who's Who of things to be sold! (I don't know if I have shared the story about selling cemetary plots while in college. It was a unique experience!)

Here is what I realize about me. For 29 years and 364 days, I have been trying to figure out ME. I have looked through the Bible (even went to Baptist Seminary ), I have read (and own) hundreds of books on sales and executive leadership, and I have put myself in a dozen dangerous situations where failure was easier than success. And at almost-30, I feel like I have emerged from an executive boot camp a little bruised, but ready to take on the world!

Why do I say all this?

Sure I am being a little "wimpishly" thoughtful... but right now I feel better about ME than I have in a long time. As a person who makes connections between people and activities and meanings, I have fought through a series of emotionally-charged life experiences - the types of stuff that can break you if you let them. All around me a team of mentors, family, and friends have played a significant role in keeping me "in check" and in providing support when I need it most...

(By the way, the quote above is from my mother...)

Right now I am reading this book called "The One Minute Closer", which deceivingly sounds like a book on "closing" (hence the title), BUT it's NOT! It is a book for great sale's guys about what makes them tick. And for the first time in about 30 books, a lot of the ME mystery is becoming more clear. ( I'll write more about this book when I finish it up...)

You might be wondering why so much self-inflection matters? Why is this mumbo-jumbo of brain-games and neuro-linguistic nuance such an obsession?

In my 1/3 life journey, I have had some unbelievable successes, some absolutely crazy business ideas, and a fireworks display of "crash-and-burn" experiences... The obvious answer is that the "bad" things we want to avoid in the future, but the "good" ones.... Imagine if you could know why what you did was successful. Imagine that! What a life of pre-planned success!

Now take that one step further. Imagine if you could take 1/3 of a life of experiences and focus it into the rest of the 2/3 of your life -- MAXIMIZING results... If that could be done, what a story legacy could be created!

And so my crisis right now is not that 1/3 of my life is over, but rather that I don't waste a second of the remaining 2/3...