Breakthrough can only happen when you make the choice to let go of the hurt and hard feelings that cloud your vision and hold your will hostage. And the best part is that forgiveness is completely within your control. You don't need permission to do it. Or reciprocation. It’s all up to you. You can't dream until you forgive. You won't grow until you forgive.Read More
The higher you climb in life the more perspective you get. The better your view. When you are left feeling discouraged by where you are in the path of life, take a moment to get some vertical — with the help of friends and others who can help you see things differently. When you can take yourself “up”, you give yourself the opportunity to reach a whole new level.Read More
Probably the easiest way to have a bigger vision is to learn what others have accomplished. It's hard to stay discouraged after you have read the life story of others who have gone on to be successful despite difficult circumstances.Read More
We all love a comeback story. And certainly, you can always change where you are in life. You can always level up. Getting better as an option for anyone at any time. Just know that your decisions have consequences, for good or bad. And know that all the incredible decisions you make on a daily basis — even a minute-by-minute basis — can be easily negated by a thoughtless, harmful decision.Read More
Think about what you allow past the gates of your eyes and your ears. Think about the people you choose to hang around. Think long and hard about the books and movies, news articles, online communities and friends that you fill your free time with. If you fill your mind with conspiracy, frustration, and stories about life being unfair then it's only reasonable, yet unfortunate, that what comes out of your lips and the thoughts that circulate wildly inside your mind in the quietness of the night are more of the same - conspiracy, frustration, and life being unfair.Read More
It's not always easy to figure out why you make the decisions that you do. But looking back it's easy to see a pattern where negative emotions influence you in a surprisingly hurtful way. It's easy to see where anger created actions that have had lasting consequences.Read More
Over the years, you develop powerful beliefs about the world around you. Most of your beliefs you don't even think all that much about. You have just developed them over time, subconsciously. When you're young, almost anything is possible. At least that's how you think about life. Maybe that’s how we should think about things all the time.Read More
Think about the magical moments in your life where you're pretty sure luck was on your side.
Think deeply about all those moments and then ask yourself a simple question: "Did I do this all on my own?"
Probably not. And by the way, that's not a smear on your work ethic or anything the least bit negative. It's just an observation in providence.Read More
Most of the decisions that you make on a daily basis are automatic. They bubble up from inside you.
That’s important to understand — and to master — because when you’re tired or angry or just not thinking straight, your automatic responses are the playbook for how your brain makes decisions.
When was the last time you made time to think about what you don’t think about.Read More
You might have a perception about success that there's one specific plan for you and one right path and that your goal is to stay on the path and adhere to the plan at all costs. Sometimes that plan works. But it's rare. That's because your life is ever-changing. You can't plan for everything.Read More
The secret is that we're all flawed and that achieving greatness requires digging into the miserable details that most often get left undone. You can't make decisions better if you're focused on immediate glory. If you're focused on how things appear.Read More
Your ego with destroy you if you let it. So don’t let it. Stand up for yourself. Fight for your future. Put your bad decisions into perspective by being aware of the people and places and situations that twist your mind into acting badly. Being clueless isn’t an advantage.Read More
AWESOMEPALOOZA was indeed awesome. I can’t wait to get back to work planning the next one. As I explained it to my friends on Linkedin, it’s the most epic “small batch un-conference on the planet”.Read More
You have the choice when you want to get up and the choice to go to work or not, whether you read a book or listen to your favorite entertainment program. The choices aren't just big things like entertainment and exercise, or work, religion, or relationship status. You get to decide the exact shade of red on the shirt that you wear.Read More
It helps others be awesome when they hear you sharing the hard truth of the journey. It helps them to know that what they're going through isn't because life is especially unfair to them or because they are a royal screw up. It's the journey and people get hurt moving down the path.Read More
Think honestly about how you have spent your time over the last few days. Think back to the last week, the last month, and the years beyond that. Why are you doing what you are doing? If you're being honest, you might admit that some of what you do doesn't make sense. Your actions and attitude are not aligned with where you want your life to go.Read More
As you pull back the layers of your activity you realize that what you do isn't an accident. It's the result of a series of habits that have formed almost accidentally over the years. To change those habits, and ultimately realize better results, you have to consciously rework the patterns in your life.Read More
The key to success is shortening that gap. Reducing the cycle time of your misery. Turning those hours and weeks of despair and suffering into milliseconds of self-awareness, purpose, and re-commitment.Read More
And that was the beginning of claiming everything she had ever dreamed of. Ever since her high school made a road trip to visit Harvard, she was obsessed about being a student there. "Why can’t this be mine if I really want it? What makes everyone else in this place so different from me?" she asked herself.Read More
You might feel like you don't have enough money or enough experience, or enough of the right connections or skills — but that's true for everyone. That's the case for every successful person. For every awesome accomplishment. You never have enough. You never feel like you are enough.Read More